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A Woman and Her Dirty Secrets

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Women do most of the household chores. Seriously, we do. Most of our men have started to help out more around the house, but, a recent International Labour Organisation (ILO) report shows that women within Latin America and the Caribbean are still responsible for 80% of household chores. And if that is not enough, most of us now have careers and are still expected to do most of the diaper changing, potty training and helping with homework. How do we cope with these responsibilities, especially during the COVID-19 pandemic?  Here are four tips that will help tremendously to reduce the stress associated with doing household chores.

Allocate time for housework

Set aside time to deep-clean the bathroom or do your laundry. No sis, doing your laundry every day certainly won’t make the piles of dirty laundry less. Doing your laundry once or twice per week will give you time to get the rest your body has been begging for. You can also use the time to do a little of this and a little of that (whatever that means to you). If you can get family members to help to do this cleaning every week, then marvelous!

Start caring Less

If you can afford to pay a cleaner to clean your house for you, then do it! Paying someone to take care of those dreaded chores will certainly improve your mood.  But if you can’t afford to outsource your cleaning, care less and focus on the bigger picture ─ spending time with your family or reviving those self-care habits that have been on life-support for wayyyy too long is far more important than doing a big clean-up every day.

Make a list of chores that need to be done and tick all the completed chores

This will be the most rewarding experience of all. You will feel a sense of accomplishment when you complete a task and tick it off your list. Remember how you felt when your teacher gave you plenty ‘stickies’ (as  Jamaicans call it) on your test paper when you got all the pop-quiz questions right? That’s exactly how you will feel! (Trust me, I know). Making a list and ticking all completed tasks may also help you to achieve your housework goals faster. Studies show that you are more likely to feel inspired to achieve a task when you have it written down.

Remember that there are no trophies for the cleanest house

During a pandemic such as COVID-19, feeling as if you have to clean your house everyday while working from home and caring for your children may be more than any of us can handle. Stop comparing yourself to women, who 20 years ago did not have the responsibilities you now have. Oh, and that Instagram Mom that you follow, whose house always looks spotless. I can assure you, she does not spend the entire day cleaning her home.

It is important for us as women to not burden ourselves with stress about things such as housework. After all, living a happy life is more important than household chores.  As Phyliss Diller said, “Housework won’t kill you, but then again, why take the chance?”

Do you have any other tips which can help to reduce the stress associated with housework? I’m curious to hear!

 

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Claudette Gayle-Foster
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Claudette Gayle-Foster

Good reading,If you must look at every aspect of the cleaning do it yourself,less stress

nneka baker
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nneka baker

I’ll be taking Diller’s advice, why take the chance?

Nakeita
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Nakeita

I’m happy that someone else can see that women would appreciate some help around the house especially with the added stress during this time. Thanks for the tips.

Alicia Daley
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Alicia Daley

All facts
Thank you for the reassurance I actually needed it

Vivian
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Vivian

Really interesting perspective Akelia. I hate doing chores, and yes, I outsource. The truth is, coming home to a clean and tidy house makes me feel much lighter than going home to…. the opposite…. here also lies the issue of work life balance…. if you can’t outsource, how do you do enough work so you can enjoy life?

Great article and definitely food for thought.

Shaneque Smith
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Shaneque Smith

Good reading actually interesting

Abigail
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Abigail

Excellent tips, especially the one on caring less. Mothers are always made to feel that they must be doing chores right around the clock….but to preserve their own health, BREAKS are a must.

Sh Az
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Sh Az

If the kids are old enough, teach them how to do some of the things and let them help out around the house. That’s a win-win. You get help and they learn how to do stuff that will help when they are adults

Tiffany
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Tiffany

Great tips Akelia! Women are strong and capable but sometimes we want to just relax and this article sums it up perfectly

McEna Blackwood
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McEna Blackwood

Food for thought. Good article Akelia. Looking forward to see more from you.

Melissa Wilson
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Melissa Wilson

This is a great story…please keep it up.

Romilly
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Romilly

This was great You did amazing